8 Strong reasons to avoid dating a married man
The rich and famous hardly set a good example on this, but why do so many people get involved in impossible love triangles, where at least one of the parties is married? Dating a married man will hurt someone and invariably, relationships started on this basis, don’t last, so before you go too far with a married man, think about these eight points:
1. Cheating shows you that he knows how to lie
No doubt, if you are dating a married man, he we will tell you that it’s all over with his wife, his wife doesn’t understand him anymore and he’s just waiting for the right moment to tell his wife, and so on and so on…You don’t know if he’s telling you the truth though and, after all, if he can lie to his wife, can’t he lie to you too?
2. How would you like it?
Have a thought for the other woman and think about how you would feel if your husband did this to you. Love may make you blind, but it doesn’t make you stupid. Getting involved with a married man is wrong, it will hurt someone else and you would be devastated it was happening to you.
3. When you are dating a married man, you are being used
If a relationship is over, then it’s over, but men sometimes find it really hard to end a relationship without an excuse. Often, married men get into affairs simply, because they don’t have the courage to face up to the issues in their marriage and bring it to an end. It’s far easier to get their kicks outside of the marriage with someone else and, if the wife finds out, then that’s all the better, because then the decision is made for him.
4. He’s got the best end of this deal
He’s got all, really, hasn’t he?! While you sneak around, flooded with guilt about what you are doing, he’s got a wife at home, taking care of the kids and doing his washing for him and he’s got the excitement of you, when he wants it. Do you really want to be used like that?
5. Dating a married man is not a romantic fairy-tale love affair
Dating a married man is not the way to start a long term relationship. You are beginning with deceit, lies and stolen, secret nights together and, if you do finally get together, then, excuse us, but, the brown sticky stuff is really going to hit the fan. You will have months of recriminations, the splitting up of a family and their possessions and possibly worst. Not the fairy tale beginning that we all hope for.
6. He may even change his mind…
After all the hassle and grief of splitting from his wife, you may even find that your new man becomes wracked with guilt and goes back to his wife. Having an affair is one thing, but often, a few months after a split, the man starts to realize what he had done and, one day, you’ll wake up to find that he’s gone back home to his wife, with his tail between his legs.
7. Why waste your time
More often than not, men who have affairs do not leave their wives. He may like the excitement of the secret rendezvous with you, but, actually, leaving the comfort of his home and family is quite probably a step too far for him. In the meantime, the clock is ticking and you are wasting time. Get out there and find a single man instead and then, you can build a relationship on sound foundations and hurt no one else in the process.
8. Dating a married man is simply wrong
It may be unfashionable to talk about the sanctity of marriage, but there is still a lot to be said for it. Religion aside, marriage is where two people solemnly swear, amongst other things, to be faithful to each other. Having an affair with a married man may not be a crime, but, at the least, you are an accomplice in a wrong doing.
What do you think about dating a married man? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section.