Are you dating Mr Wrong? – 10 warning signs to look out for.
Are you dating someone that you are not quite sure about? Have some doubts in the back of your mind that just won’t go away? Is your love for him blinding you to some of his more unpleasant characteristics?
In the midst of that whirlwind we call love, we sometimes overlook the warning signs that someone really isn’t for us. Sometimes obvious, sometimes small and subtle, the things that should start the alarm bells ringing loud and clear. Things that say: “Slam on the brakes and get out quick!”
Here’s a few tips to help you out, a top ten list of warning signs that you may be dating the wrong guy:
1. Temper, Temper!
Always be wary of a man with a temper. Losing your temper means that you are losing control and, God forbid that it ever happens to you; a man that loses control could become prone to violence. The old adage of a man should never hit a woman is 100% true. If a man ever uses violence against you, however slight, get the heck out and fast!
2. Trust your friends and family
There will always be someone in your circle of friends and family who won’t like your man, but if this seems to be the majority vote, you may be missing something important; time to ask some questions of your own perhaps.
3. Where are all his friends?
Having your man at your beck and call at all times might be nice and make you feel really special, but a man with no friends at all is just odd. If no one else likes him, why do you?
4. Are you sure you trust him?
Mutual trust is the cornerstone of every loving, happy and healthy relationship. If you have doubts about his trustworthiness, those doubts are unlikely to go away over time. Trust in your own instincts; don’t let love outweigh logic.
5. You’re not a possession
Beware the over-possessive man, he will become a pain! ‘Mr Right’ likes a woman who has a life of her own and her own circle of friends. Over-possessiveness just smacks of insecurity and a lack of trust.
6. The Mummy’s Boy
Disrespect for his mother might be a sign of a deeper disrespect for women in general, but a man who is still tied to his mother’s apron strings is just as bad. Take the warning sign on board; he might just be looking for a mother replacement, not a lover.
7. Watch out for roving Eyes
Most men will cast a glance at other attractive women if they walk by, it’s only natural, but if their eyes always seem to be with someone else, even when they’re talking to you, that’s a different matter altogether. Remember, if a man can’t control his eyes, there may be other parts of his anatomy he’s a bit free and easy with too.
8. Men with busy diaries
If it seems that your man can never find the time to see you and you feel that you are always being squeezed into a ‘window’ of his hectic lifestyle, then he may not be the man for you. If he really wants to see you, he will find the time; remember that, despite all their bravado, men are cowards at heart and perhaps he just can’t find the courage to tell you that it’s over.
9. Men who love to party
Men who are the life and soul of every party and are real party animals can be great fun to be with, but we can’t be partying 24 hours a day. Is your man going to be able to just spend some quality time relaxing with you at home or is the party moment the only thing that gives him a buzz?
Above all, watch out for the man who shows you no respect. They all know about respect because they’ve all watched the Godfather movie at least once. (If you haven’t seen the film ask your man about it, he’ll probably be able to entertain you with at least one quote from it!). If a man doesn’t respect you for who you are, then you are probably on to a loser from the start.
These are just ten of the signs that he might be Mr Wrong. Knowing the signs is the easy part; opening your eyes and admitting it can be the hardest thing to do.
I hope you find these dating and relationship tips useful.
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